Love is patient, love is kind.
Oh yes, it is those things.
It is also, ‘put on your seat belt’, ‘did you get enough to eat?’ and reassuring someone after a nightmare even though you really wanna dye your hair…among a multitude and myriad of other things.
“It’s all based off of love. And love isn’t ‘do this for me and I’m going to do this for you’, that’s not what love is. Love is just I’m going to do this for you because I’m going to do this for you.”
YouTube rabbithole I was tumbling down took a weird turn and landed on the Biebs.
Before I realized it was him, I was in full agreeance, after I realized it was him, I am in full agreeance.
I think that love and or fondness for another human being makes little tasks and treats for said person into a pleasurable experience. Mind you I have always been the girl who enjoyed giving gifts at Christmas more than receiving them. Releases some kind of happy chemical in my brain when I see someone else’s joy.
I have written articles before such as Love as a Verb and Love as a Noun. Love is action and a state of being in my humble yet loving opinion.
Case and point, having beers with the boys last night.
One said “I always wished she would have come over and girlied up the place but she never did.”
Which lead into me saying ‘well you weren’t doing what she wanted to do (which was consider letting her move in) so she didn’t do it.’
I choked on the words a bit, but they are paramount truth.
Too many people running around only giving love conditionally.
To me that is withholding, and an abomination against the Lord.
And not at all indicative of love.
But it is so much the norm that that particular behavior is immediately recognizable and easily identified.
Doesn’t make it any less one-sided and shitty.
I post love memes all day every day, and without fail or exception there is a rabble rabble from the crowd…
“But he doesn’t do _____ for me, why should I be nice to him?”
Because you love him maybe? Or claim to?
“You keep using that word (love) and I don’t think it means what you think it means.” Princess Bride.
We are ever evolving creatures that change and learn as we go, or the ones I want to hang out with are. Why sequester yourself in a relationship with someone who stifles that? Puts limitations and expectations on you to be something they have created in their own mind as ideal. I don’t get it.
My favorite thing? Sitting back and letting people be themselves. Watching their eyes light up when they get excited about something they love. Feeling safe to be myself is so incredibly important to me that I try to carry around that idea of sanctuary with me wherever I go.
There are billions of people on the planet, find one that fits as is.
That is exactly what love is to me “I love you as is, just because.” Drunk, sleepy, cranky, happy, strange, dirty, clean…all of those things are faces of you and I like yer face.
I love you because I just do.